My Paradigm
this is my page for some things about me that are repetitive, repeated, or in any way part of a pattern, or paradigm, hence the page title, "My Paradigm"
it includes recurring phrases/sayings in my life, pet peeves, nicknames and trigger/unique words, and my trigger list
so my life has decided that some of the phrases i say become the story of my life, or become repeated events in some way, or phrases i say a lot because, well, they're true, here's a list of them. i'm also going to keep count of how many instances of me saying these things about a situation happen
Pet Peeves:
being called a child, or young, or in general being treated as younger than i am or act. inversely, saying i act mature is a huge compliment
being one of those snap score obsessed people on snapchat. you know who you are, go away, you're annoying.
people who are mentally and emotionally immature.
things that make fun of or insult things that are out of your control, or unrelated to you are an example, like being hateful towards LGBTQ+ people, "your mom" jokes, saying i'm evil because of BPD, etc, all this stupid stuff is just immaturity. grow up, learn to accept people, and not be hateful or make fun of them for things.
this is my nicknames and trigger words section, which covers certain terms and nicknames, and such, and how to use them around me if at all. some are covered in some of my accounts like pronouns.page and stuff which are linked In Connections on our main site, or mentioned elsewhere, but still, this is just a comprehensive list. the negative ones i will block you over depending on context, so just save us the trouble and respect me, like i'll respect you.
Positive:
Love - context: "I love you" - reserved for lovers, do not use this unless you have a crush on me and want to date because i WILL catch feelings within a half hour of you saying this if you know what it means and mean it as love and not luv
Luv - context: "I luv you" - for friends, always fine, USE IT PLEASE, I WILL LUV YOU. seriously, i love this word and i will always be happy to platonically luv people because i am a very affectionate bitch when i want to be
Cutie - very amazing word that i fucking love to be called
Silly - same effect as Cutie, use it carefully, especially as i will most likely catch feelings if you use it
Silly Girl - context: calling me this if i do something funny or goofy or chaotic - this just makes me blush, i fucking love this if it's used in the right way
Sweetie/Sweetheart - both of these just make me feel cute and special and add a nice layer of caring to who we are
Babygirl - only use this if we're dating, or together in some fashion, you'll know if it's ok. also, guys: don't use this, i'm lesbian, and it just feels weird for me, that's a boundary.
Sis - only use this if we're close or i've shown or said i regard you highly and am comfy with you, you'll know if it's ok
Hun/Honey - only use these in a platonic sense please, idk why but they don't feel quite right for a romantic or NSFW sense.
Bitch - use this in a joking tone, i'll love it, because i am a bitch. you may be asking "what if i use it as an insult?" well, you will be verbally bitch slapped with bitchiness and i'll block you
Blushy - this will make me smile and blush if used in the right context, it's great for any use, friends, lovers, whatever
Queen Aleena - this is just a silly nickname you can use to refer to me if you want to
Negative words are in collapsible text to avoid triggers - obvious, but: trigger warning below.
these words are ones that are annoying, and also add to this anything directly offensive, now, reclaimed things, sure, go for it.
Negative:
Dude - i'm not a dude, i don't want to be called dude, and never will. this is one of the biggest "i call everyone this" transphobic arguments i keep hearing and i'm sick of it, so don't call me this. period.
Human - being called human irks me, because i don't like being associated with other humans out of feeling like i'm better than a large portion of them (namely the hateful ones). please call me a person, because person means individual, of any sentient species, and idk, i like that better.
R*pe - do not say this word unless it is in spoilers, or censored in some fashion. this is a trigger. do not use it.
Faggot, Dyke, Tranny - i'll just sit back and laugh if you call me these and call you a cunt, which by the way: if you've ever said these maliciously, then fuck you. the only exception to that insult being if you've changed and have realised just how bad these words are.
Retard/Retarded - these are still directly offensive, and again, i'm just gonna laugh and block you for your idiocy. they're slurs in my book.
this is my trigger list, with all of them being in collapsible text
Politics - i know, i know, everything's connected to it, but i'd rather avoid it because it's a touchy subject because when i didn't know about something relating to it when i was trying to be aware and more involved, this person just attacked me and showed me that politics aren't worth jack shit because the effort i put in was already a lot, but it wasn't good enough to not get attacked in a senseless debate that i didn't even want to be in and this person just escalated. if you want to have a very chill and calm conversation and stuff about stuff, and send me research tools for it, and teach me some stuff, in a very calm and kind manner, sure, go for it, otherwise, stay off this topic entirely, please. as for our stances, Zonarshi covers our system's political stances and he speaks for all of us On His Site. you can discuss these with him if you like.
Medication - i've had only bad experiences with medication and so many people have been so fucking pushy about it and it's not something i want, nor do i want to talk about it. am i anti vax or anti medication? hell no, i just don't want a daily medication for my disorders, i'd rather handle them with self control and a shit ton of practice, which i have done for years. stop saying to get on meds, or tell me i'm off them, and start validating my emotions, letting me vent them, and encouraging me to do so in healthier ways, or just stay off this topic entirely.
Rape, Abuse, Etc - i am ok to talk about this, ONLY if you warn me and ask to talk about them and give a bleep, now, if you blindside me with these or don't spoiler them, that's a trigger. don't do that.
Invalidation, or Manipulation - don't invalidate or manipulate me, it will trigger me, and it will piss me right off, and will probably make me split. if you do this, i will remove you from my life, and it will not be kind.
Not Being Heard - i have had to deal with so many people in my life not listening to me, not understanding me, and not even trying. if you're not going to listen to me and truly care about what i have to say, then don't try and be friends, leave now. also reading this site is a great way to avoid me feeling this way.